Okay, so, this wasn’t the post I initially planned to do next. BUT social media has driven me to do so. If you guys know me, you know this isn’t strictly a beauty blog, its a whatever-is-on-Shawna’s-mind-blog as well. So ladies, some guys, can we talk about why so many people feel it is necessary to be in a relationship in order to verify themselves? I honestly don’t get it. Don’t get me wrong, I love my relationship and I love my man, but why do some of you go bat-shit crazy when you’re single? Why can some of us not be happy unless we are in some kind of relationship? What does that say?
Before my husband, I was previously married, we were together for five years, my high school sweetheart, had a kid together, all that jazz. And yes, while I was upset, I did not have the need to be in a relationship right after. I mended my heart and took my time getting to know who I was and who I wanted to be (as well as getting to know my beautiful son). People, it’s okay to get to know yourself. Be in a relationship with yourself, know who you are and what you want before you jump into something else. Let’s be real, I met my ex when I was 15. I didn’t know who I was much less who I wanted to become. Don’t get me wrong, high school relationships can last, but they also cannot. It’s just how life works. I know so many people who are in and out of relationships like a revolving door and not even taking the time to figure out who they are.
That split up really helped me learn that I can find happiness. That I don’t need someone to make me happy but that I can be happy all in my own. Finding my husband, was unexpected. I figured out what I wanted in life, figured out who I was and where I was going, then he came along and complimented that happiness and encourages me to continue to chase that person I want to be and that path I want to go down.
The bottom line is, you can’t be happy in a relationship if you can’t find happiness by yourself. If you are just looking for a relationship and some sort of validation, you might find some heartbreak as well.